Comments on Cat's Experiment: Words and Actions

Text message man could be infatuated but shy? But ...

2008-04-21T19:03:00.000+10:00

Text message man could be infatuated but shy? But he'd probably still try to get your friend out on a date once in a while...
The other one sounds lovely, but possibly with bad history? Had a similar case myself with lovely bloke, but as soon as things were to turn slightly more serious (i.e. I actually expected him to turn up), he stopped being around. Anyway, probably still the better try. ;-)
SV

A text is a little gossamer thread of communicatio...

2008-04-19T11:01:00.000+10:00

A text is a little gossamer thread of communication that if a person lets it, can entrap, entangle and beguile...and waste time.

Actions speak louder.

The other man mentioned seems to be indicating interest. However until it is explicitly outlined..interest is all it is.

I've seen so many of my friends spend way too much time wondering what it all means.

You're right Cat, actions speak louder than words...but they do need to be clear too. Clear actions speak loudest of all.

Catherine

text man - if he doesn't committ to a date - he's ...

2008-04-17T04:25:00.000+10:00

text man - if he doesn't committ to a date - he's too busy - with other girls. One of my girlfriends had an entire 'relationship' on text and wondered why nothing came of it... they only ended up getting together for sex - but the texts continued for months... I think of if this way - how many girls is he sending those texts to? How can she be sure that she's the only one?
Be direct with him. Have him show up to only her - and see what she can get out of him - one on one, ONLY. If he still can't be direct, then she should be less available and see how he feels about her having other guys around...

Read: why men love bitches.
Though the title is a bit harsh, the advise is good - just be yourself and don't put too much effort into things in the beginning. Made me laugh reading it!